1 in 3

I guess this popped into my head because of the time of year but you know how in the film Love Actually, Hugh Grant decrees that love actually, is all around?

Well, it seems to me that cancer actually, is all around.

I remember writing ages ago that 1 in 3 people would get cancer but even as I was writing it I wasn’t sure I believed it. I doubt a lot of people reading it believed it either.

When I was newly diagnosed and news spread, my dad reported that a family friend seemed particularly sad and annoyed that I had it too (they had been diagnosed not long before). I didn’t really understand why that might be, I think I do now.

Someone I know and like very much, has cancer. I’m pretty pissed about it. This is the first person I’ve known, since getting cancer, to be diagnosed with it too. I think I’m mostly pissed because I thought if I had to go through it, everyone in my life would somehow be protected. I guess 1 in 3 trumps silly dreams.

You know how Groucho Marx said he wouldn’t want to be part of a club that would have him as a member? Like the motherless ducking club, the C-club is the club you want to be the only member of. But 1 in 3 means I can’t close membership.

Cancer is on the rise, people are getting it younger and younger, no-one seems to know exactly what’s causing it. I could give you a list a mile long of things it might be. Most of them seem to stem from our “developed world” lifestyles. If you’re wondering, you do feel guilty about that.

This time of year; we drink a bit more, we eat a bit more, maybe we smoke a bit more. We are rushing about and perhaps neglecting any niggling health issues. I’m asking you, because I haven’t in a while, to check yourselves over. Go to the doctor if you’re worried and perhaps curb the holiday spirit(s) a little. Remind your friends and loved ones to do the same. I’m asking you to give yourself and those around you, the best chance of being the 2 and not the 1.

I’m asking you to do this because life is not like it is in the comic books. The radiation they are hitting me with at the moment, doesn’t change me into a superhero, turns out it only makes me tired and burnt. I can’t shield people or protect them from cancer. So all I can do is ask, because I know more than 2 other people, and you know more than 2 other people.

Thank you.